It’s strange how things I’ve heard, read or watched ages ago suddenly start making sense at random moments in my life. Proverbs that my mother used to say when I was younger – walaalka haduu macyahay lama muudsado – gain meaning as I grow up. Passages from books and poems I read as a teenager spring to my mind because of something I’m experiencing, and I realise I can relate to them in a way I couldn’t before.
Recently I’ve been internally debating between climbing the social/professional ladder vs. taking it easy and exploring my other passions in life while I’m still young. I realised I am pretty adamant about not looking back one day only to realise my life has been a series of unfulfilled potentials – or to say it with Thoreau’s words: “and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived”.
Like many, I’d rather have a bunch of failures on my belt than regrets, but it’s easier said than done, especially during the pandemic.
As I was considering this, I remembered a conversation from Terrace House 2019-2020 that I suddenly could relate to.
It was between Shohei and Haruka and the topic was quite similar to my line of thought. Shohei expressed having many passions and talents and not wanting to focus on one career only but on achieving his potential in several fields. I related to him when he said: “I feel trapped when I think of working in one field forever”. Haruka thought the opposite, saying: “I think it’s detrimental to identify as undecided to strangers. You risk coming across as wishy-washy”. Her critique stemmed from knowing how difficult it is in the Japanese society to embrace or accept Shohei’s attitude, as the standard there is working hard to achieve your one true vocation/career while the opposite is seen as lacking focus and determination.
The first time I heard this dialogue I related more with Haruka – maybe because I was still quite new at my job and I had the desire to excel at it. Now, a year later, Shohei’s side makes so much more sense to me and I find myself thinking that life would be too boring if I only focused on one thing.
Architecture? Project Management? It’s all fun and exciting, but why would I limit myself to that only? There is so much more I am interested in, writing, drawing, reading, travelling. I’d like to write a book, but I’ve always been focused on achieving one thing or another – school, moving away from home, finding a new job, reaching the role I wanted. And now? Time is ticking and before I know it I’ll be too old to take risks.
I should do more of what I enjoy, and take all the necessary time off work to focus on those things that give me pleasure and fulfillment.
Maybe I suddenly got reminded of this because it’s time to take action. Maybe the question is not what to do, but how and when I should do it.